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Still single? Too picky to marry?
Jun 2, 2008 | 5:30 PM
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My friends who are in their 30s and 40s and still looking for that "speical someone" have a tough time. Some people imply there's something wrong with being single at that age. Now, there's a new book out about men in their 40s who haven't married. It's called "So Why Have You Never Been Married?" The author - Carl Weisman - was trying to answer the question for himself. He was single in his 40s. He blames high divorce rates for part of the trouble. Some guys he interviewed say they're fearful about ending up in a bad marriage. 62% of men he polled say they'd like to get married, but they won't settle for anything less than perfection. What do you think? Are these guys just too picky?


See Beth's story:

Men & Marriage

Did you know that eight percent of men never want to get married? Fox 5's Beth Parker explains how one author says this lack of commitment may not be a bad thing.

http://www.myfoxdc.com/myfox/pages/ContentDetail?conte
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shuga read my blog
Jun 2, 2008 | 5:41 PM

They have every right to be picky.. But soon they will realise no matter how much you try you will never find the perfect person... You can never have the total package.. Well at least from what I have seen.
Y3Y3 read my blog view my photos
Jun 2, 2008 | 7:58 PM

Choose personality over looks. make sure you can...um, well...you know....do it with your partner, and that you can stand them at their worst and YOU BOTH treat each other like you wanna be treated.

Just got out of what was a WONDERFUL relationship at the beginning, but after fights, demands, ultimatums, couples counciling, and both of us trying, we just weren't for each other. We were BOTH miserable. I guess we wore out each others welcome. I would rather she find someone she can live with and who makes HER happy.
GrandmaM read my blog view my photos
Jun 3, 2008 | 7:32 AM

I don't blame men for not wanting to marry. Many of the legal advantages of marriage protect the woman, and favor her after a divorce.
I know several men who thought they had found "the one" and then have been ruined financially after things went sour.

I believe in my own marriage, but understand why others don't want anything to do with old rules which apply to new reality.
MCGRUNT read my blog view my photos
Jun 3, 2008 | 9:41 AM

Take my wife,,,,,,,please.

LOL We miss you Henny Youngman.
Gooberpug read my blog view my photos
Jun 3, 2008 | 11:12 AM

Being married for 22 years and then divorced for almost four (divorce became final one week shy of 23 years)I'm happy to be single again.
I'm a female but I forfeited a lot to get my freedom. I even paid for the divorce myself. Now, after having my freedom, I'm not apt to run back into marriage. Sorry I would rather live in sin then take that plunge again. But thats just me. I don't think we ever know truly know our partners no matter how long were married. Marriage is like gambling, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
Starrman1 read my blog view my photos
Jun 3, 2008 | 3:15 PM

Gooberpug and GrandmaM, AMEN! July will be anniversary #23 with my second wife. She is BEST thing that ever happened to me. When we started seeing each other and decided that marriage was on the plate, she moved in with me for 2 years before the vows. I wanted her to see me at my best and worst, and what she would have to deal with. My Mother of course was vehemently against the cohabitation part, but she got over it. So far my wife has put up with me in all types of ups and downs, and vice versa. But that is what it is all about I think.
Y3Y3, you did the best thing in your case. Why be miserable 24/7? Life is farrrrrr too short, and there are many many people out there that are compatible. If you find one you are lucky, if you do not, at least you are not coming home daily to a situation that makes you even less happy.

MCGRUNT, Henny and Rodney.
BigSmooov read my blog
Jun 3, 2008 | 3:47 PM

A marriage counselor can't tell me nothing that a person that's been married for 30...40+ years haven't already done and lived through.

Those are the people we should be listening too.

I saw a movie by Tyler Perry called "Why Did I Get Married" a little over a month ago on DVD. There was a true statement that was made in the movie that just blew my mind. It was called the "80-20 rule."

"NO ONE IS 100% WHAT YOU WANT. THE PERSON YOU END UP WITH SHOULD AT LEAST BE 80% OF WHAT YOU WANT. THE 20% IS WHAT YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT. QUITE OFTEN PEOPLE FALL FOR THE 20% BECAUSE OF SUPERFICTIAL REASONS (LOOKS, MONEY, S_X, etc...). IN THE END, THEY LOSE THE 80%."

Too true.
shuga read my blog
Jun 4, 2008 | 12:55 PM

Big Smoove.. That message was powerful and so true.. I loved that movie
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At age 9 I decided I wanted to be a reporter and here I am. I've been at Fox5 for 8 years. Covering all kinds of news - investigations, features, you name it. I've had the privilege of meeting a lot of fascinating people. Many have been kind enough to share their stories with me. In the news business, every day is a new adventure!

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