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hell Laura ...if I understood some news commentary correctly today, he hadn't had the stones to give his wife the facts until shortly before she was to accompany him out to the brief news announcement ...my understanding is she only learned then what the details were and the issue was fully about cause she was given a copy of the script he was usin' to make his announcment from ...this guy's gotta make your skin crawl...what can be said about the daughters ...the mess he's left them to cope with in their circle of friends and day to day routines...

What would I do? I wouldn't be on TV with Mr. Sleazy. I'd be in Raoul Feldman's office with a smile on my face. I don't think there is anything in the wedding vows about putting up with an adulterous, pompous smirking fool...I've been married almost 37 years, and I stood by my man through thick and thin. But he never soiled our marriage and our family in such a hypocritical way.

Having children complicates things. If I was Mrs. Spitzer and had no children, I would have been on the phone to my divorce lawyer after the scumbag told me his side of the story.

But if I were Mrs. Spitzer and had children, my initial reaction would be to protect my children and do what's in their best interest.

The other thing, I have to consider is how much did Mrs. Spitzer know. Let's be honest here, there are some marriages in which spouses give the okay for extra-marital relationships.

It actually depends if she has money on her own or not. Makes a huge difference. Even with respect to kids. Kids follow the $$$.

Laura,

No doubt this is national news when one of our trusted officials get caught in such a scandal and I can’t imagine what it is like for the family in this most personal time. But you know this type of thing happens everyday to normal everyday people. I just am not surprised!!..Now what did surprise me, is I went to a party recently for the Iraq vets at Walter Reed, and was shocked buy all the young soldiers missing arms and legs, and their wives and husbands crying over the emotional impact it has had on their family. So you see, I don’t care much about “Just another bad marriage”

G. in Springfield

Well my husband in his flippant manner said to me "for 4300 that better be one clean hooker".

In this day and age the simlpe act of infidelity is not nearly as offensive as the though of what kind of STD he coule have brought home to his wife and keeper of his children by his indescretions.

Infedelity unfortunately is often a way of life for many. Its the reprecussions of these acts in potentially life threatening diseases that gets me.

As for the girls. They have learned a hard lesson early on about marraige and infedelity, its how the parents deal with it that will be key. If the parents act like yelling and screaming idiots, it wont help. If the pareants deal with it maturely and 90% behind closed doors than the girls will learn how to effectively deal with strife in a marriage and be better prepared when they run into marraige problems in the future.

Ok, let’s take the unpopular road and I’ll play Devils Advocate. Maybe the wife stopped providing shall we say affection? Like many wives do. I’m sure in this case; power and money are the driven force. But, why doesn’t any one address the fact that many wives stop all or extremely limit physical contact of any kind? Yes men are pigs in this area, we like sex and that is defined as a vice or bad thing by the female population. In a marriage is it fair for wives to make the decision to end the sex life? What is the husband to do? How long is the husband to go without some love’n?

Yes, mens argument for straying is often that bedroom activities have slowed, and often stopped completely.

My husband and I have had MANY conversations over this particular topic due to the media coverage. Cant share all the sordid details, but its been entertaining!

Ladies, dont cry when your man goes someplace else to get what is lacking in a marriage/relationship. You cant build a marriage on sex, but it sure keeps a marriage interesting, that and stimulating conversation.

I cannot believe people are blaming her for supposedly withholding sex and therefore forcing her husband to go elsewhere. I've never been in their bedroom, thank goodness, but do you suppose he liked the thrill of being a naughty boy? of sneaking around? Pretty perilous behavior for a public figure.
And let's be real here. There's a reason Cialis, Viagra and Levitra were invented. Women don't have to take them, and the myth of the frigid wife causing her man to mess around is just that, a myth invented by the "slam bam" school of nincompoops.

And money is no issue. She's a Harvard law school grad with a distinguished former career in corporate law. I doubt she is worried about money. She can make her own, or sic a mad dog divorce lawyer on Eliot' sorry butt.

Again I'm just playing Devils Advocate in bringing up the lack of affection issue. Yes beagle_buddy $4300 clearly shows this as a "I have the Money and Power" thus fell to corruption, like many politicians/rich and famous have. He is a fool. Also, GrandmaM in no way do I mean to place any blame on his wife. I just want to bring up the fact that many wives stop all sexual contact and that this does lead to infidelity. Sex is a very important corner-stone in a marriage.